In my early twenties, I experienced what it feels like to suffer from work-related stress. I’ll save you the details here but the up-shot was that I vowed to myself that I would never let myself fall out of love with work again.
See, work and I, we’re a good fit. Highly compatible. It’s a give – give relationship. I give the best I’ve got and it gives back to me; personally, professionally, financially, purposefully. Yes, we have our disagreements, and sometimes it forgets that I can’t be with it all of the time but on the whole, we get along really well. I fuel it and it fuels me.
And we’ve changed. We’ve evolved. As I’ve climbed the corporate ladder work has expected more from me, and I of it. Goals have been set, achieved and replaced with more challenging ones. We’re not the same partnership we were twenty years ago and we’ll no doubt be different again 20 years hence.
We’ve moved house too.
We used to live in the corporate world, highly populated, diverse, great neighbours, something of a social scene, fast paced and plentiful. Now, we’ve opted for the land of self-employment. It’s a more rural and sometimes isolated place to be, but the possibilities of what we can grow and nurture here together seem abundant, plentiful, rich. We see our friends from corporate world occasionally and they comment how we’re even happier than we were before and that life must be treating us well.
It is. It’s terrifying and exciting in equal measure. As with any relationship, some days I feel frustrated at yet another thing that work forgot to prepare me for. And every day I am thankful that here, in this place, I get to challenge conventional ways of working (and have it challenge me back), I get to try new ways of being that before were unimaginable and I get to learn and grow beyond what I thought was possible.
I know what it’s like to feel that work seems to have a different agenda to you. That feeling of unease, unsettledness. The feeling that you’re capable of so much more and that your talents are being wasted. That there must be more to it than this.
Take a deep breath and ask yourself, if you could do anything, anywhere, with anyone, what would it be. And, how is what you’re doing right now moving you towards that dream?
You don’t need to throw the towel in, up sticks and move to the countryside (metaphorically or literally!) but being clear about your values, your motivators and how your work aligns with those is a great first step to having a healthier more fulfilling relationship with work. And when was the last time you stopped to really think about what drives you? I have a great little worksheet that will help you to work through this stuff. Just drop me a note at firstname.lastname@example.org and I’ll send it straight on to you.
Taking one tiny step, each day, towards your goal is far better than waiting for the right moment. Waiting for clarity. Waiting for the time and space to work it all out. One step. One tiny step. What could that be?
As for me, it’s back to the gardening…
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